Although it took some time, I can now look back on my salon days and smile. This is the season where Entrepreneur to creator, my curious journey took place; a chapter marked by quiet chaos and confusion. Although the Lord had been working on my heart to find balance, he hadn’t yet dealt with the most destructive habits I was unknowingly battling. Chaos and confusion.

We opened the salon in 2011,(NOTE THE #11) and it quickly took off. By 2013, we were busy—really busy. By 2015, my husband and I were working side by side, and let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. To those couples who make working together look effortless, hats off to you! For us, it was a different story. Stress seemed to follow us everywhere, blurring the lines between our chaotic work life and equally chaotic home life.

The toll this chaos took on our marriage was undeniable. Things had been rough for a long time, and by then, my husband and I were both contemplating divorce. We had tried everything—praying, counseling, creating new habits—but nothing seemed to stick. Cutting our losses seemed easier than staying in a marriage where happiness felt so fleeting.

I knew God hated divorce, and I believed it was only permissible in cases of abuse or infidelity—neither of which applied to us. So, I resolved to wait for God to intervene, to show me what to do. But was He listening? My prayers for healing seemed to go unanswered. Frustration and disillusionment settled in as I wrestled with the idea that restoration might not be possible. The endless cycle of arguments, threats of divorce, and attempts to fix things only made the situation feel more hopeless.

I remember our final conversation about divorce very vividly. We agreed that this time it was serious—divorce was the best option. As the weight of the decision sank in, I muttered, “Wow, so 2015 is the year?” (NOTE THIS FOR IT WILL BECOME IMPORTANT), It felt surreal. After years of CONTEMPLATING OUR RELATIONSHIP, it seemed OUR chapter was finally closing, IN 2015.

But days later, before sharing our plans with anyone, we attended my nephew’s baby dedication at an out-of-town church. The service began as expected, with a visiting pastor delivering the sermon. Suddenly, he paused mid-message, looked toward our section of the congregation, and said something he claimed he never does:

“The Holy Spirit is prompting me to say this—there’s a couple here today contemplating divorce.”

I froze in embarrassment. I felt like a spotlight had landed on me, and I was certain everyone knew it was us, even though we hadn’t told a soul. Then the pastor continued, “The Lord says you two will not divorce—2015 is not the year!” And then just like that, he continued on with his sermon.

I was stunned. God had taken my own words and turned them into His answer. It was as if He said, I’ve heard your prayers. I’ve seen your pain. I am not done with your marriage.

We left the church that day in stunned silence. The hour-long drive home was quiet as we processed what had happened. It took days before we could talk about it. When we finally did, we realized we both had the exact same recollection of the event. But when I later asked my family—who were with us at the service—none of them remembered the pastor saying those words. To this day, I can’t fully explain it, but I know without a doubt: God spoke to us, and His message was clear. The only thing left to do was obey.

Today, divorce is so common that it often feels like an expected fallback. Many enter marriage with the SELFISH mindset that if it doesn’t work OUT FOR ME , there’s always an easy out. But God views marriage differently. In Malachi 2:16, He says, “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty. “So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.”

Marriage is a covenant, not just a contract. God takes it seriously, and He is displeased with divorce because of the spiritual, emotional, and familial consequences it brings. The enemy wants to steal our marital blessings, kill our joy, and destroy our families. But the good news is that God wants to give us abundant life—even in our marriages. But why are we not experiencing that promise? THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I HAD TO ASK MYSELF.

If you’re living in a struggling marriage, you might feel like abundant life is a distant dream. But LOOK AT IT THIS WAY, since God doesn’t lie, MAYBE THERE’S something you’re missing? Realizing this is the first step to restoration. The truth is, God wants you to know His promises, believe Him, and trust Him. He can change any situation—no matter how hopeless it feels.

Our marriage didn’t transform overnight after God intervened. Instead, it took intentional, practical steps and complete reliance on His direction. The difference this time was, after we heard God, we took an intentional step of obedience to blindly trust in the answer he gave us. Although we took a leap of faith, we held onto the knowledge that if God said it, then he’s got a purpose. I believe that was the acknowledgment God needed to change our hearts and opened doors of healing. As we worked on our relationship, God began to heal the wounds in our marriage and restore what was broken. Little by little, He worked not just in our marriage, but in particular areas of our lives.

Looking back, I realize how much God’s intervention in our marriage wasn’t just about saving a relationship—it was about refining us. He used our brokenness as a tool to mold our character, deepen our faith, and strengthen our reliance on Him. The journey wasn’t easy, but it taught me the value of surrendering to God’s will, even when the path forward seemed impossible.

No matter how broken your marriage might feel, trust that God can redeem it. He’s not done with youR MARRIAGE!

Take some time to talk to God about the areas of restoration you desire in your marriage, relationships, or even finances. Ask him what steps YOU need to take to get there.

If you ever doubt the Lord’s desire to restore any part of your life, remember John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” This verse encapsulates the depth of God’s love and His ultimate plan of redemption. Through Jesus’ sacrifice, God made a way for us to be reconciled to Him, offering eternal life and a restored relationship for all who believe.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

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